'Gladys wong, you gotta stop being so idealistic. Just live life.'

'We want someone ideal to like us for our flaws and whom we love madly enough not to mind that person's flaws. If we dun settle for an ideal person, we will end up having to make that eprson change to be the ideal person in our minds.'

Two pple said two different things to me. So, vote. which is better said?